In Zen aspects of martial arts we learn life is suffering. Period. This is reality.
The question is what do you do about it?
Strive to overcome it in a way that benefits you and those around you.
Destiny is the discovery process in which we find out how well what we are doing overcomes that suffering.
But you have to commit to the journey. This requires faith. The faith that I can follow a path that leads to enlightenment, which means simply to reduce suffering.
There are reason, real reasons, to follow this path and reasons not to follow this path. But you can’t know the reasons, truly know, why to unless you do it.
It’s like marriage. If you get married but somewhere in your mind you think you might leave then you aren’t truly married. In marriage one of the rules is you don’t get to leave. Of course there are exceptions that comes up but that’s not the point. The point is there are some things you don’t get to do unless you are all in.
Which brings me to my next point. In life you are all in. Whatever you decide to do with your time, fact is life will kill you in the end.
So the question is what are you going to do with life? As the sand of your time runs out what do you want to do with it? Might as well spend each grain of sand on something worth wild. Why not go all in and reach your potential in something?
When you get married and have a child, for example, the meaning of life is revealed. It so obvious because it’s right in front of you. You can try and over analyze it. That’s your choice. But that’s putting the cart before the horse.
The simple answer is to live properly. If you had your crap together it would be better for you. But as a consequence it would also be better for your family. Then as the ripples expand it is better for your local community. And even further as the ripple crosses the pond it benefits humanity as a whole.
There are three basic ways to perform insight based work.
Inspired conversations with people a little further down the path then you.
Mindfulness Meditations, observation without judgement
I find those are the three ways to gain insight. But no matter which way you go you have to do the hard yards. You have to put the work in that ‘can’ eventually lead to insight. You can’t read and get it. You can’t hack it. There’s no follow these 7 steps. And it isn’t knowledge. In this instant gratification world we find ourselves in people are exposed to all sort of quick tricks or that one knowledge nugget. But the truth is there is no such thing. I’m more on par with anti-life hacking, otherwise we are butchering the fundamentals and the process.
Thinking on the ways I’ve always done things. I notice when I slip from it things always go down hill. When it slips you have to fix the culture.
“Be a magnet for responsible and disciplined people not a net for the undisciplined and uncommitted.”
It comes down to filtering people out. You have to make sure they are willing to put in the work and time.
Cut off times – give people ‘X’ amount of time to get it together or they should move on.
Homework assignments. This tells you who wants it and who doesn’t and who will go that extra mile. I’ve always found it interesting that the people who ‘won’t’ do homework assignments always ask for workout programs, nutrition programs etc.. aka they want others to put in work on their behalf but won’t put it in themselves.
My time is valuable to me, in fact it’s the most valuable thing I have.
This has nothing to do with whether someone is ‘bad’ or not just whether they are a fit for what we do or not, want to invest our time into or not, surround ourselves with or not.
There is only so much time to give.
The old cliche is true.
“You either find a way or find an excuse.”
Most will find or justify an excuse but at the end of the day they didn’t put the work in, they didn’t improve.
Many people come and go in martial arts. Some stick around yet never truly commit or they only half heartly put forth effort, while others move on. The reasons are many – ego, to many things going on in life, to many side interest.
Occasionally you find that rare gem. The student that quietly shows up and focuses for hours to master that one technique, that one skill. They listen intently and work hard to apply. They stay late, shows up early while everyone else is busy doing other things. They are there alone working; spending hours drilling over and over; paying attention to the smallest detail. They are there not to show off or stroke their ego, rather mastering.
1000 reps, 5000 reps, 10,000 reps – over and over.
You sit and observe as they are busy self talking themselves through what they need to work on; never quite satisfied- highly coachable.
This is GRIT in action, this is focus manifesting and gratitude realized.
There’s a difference between desire & actively willing something into existence.
If you say you want ‘X’ yet you spend your time doing ‘Y’, then what you are saying through action is exactly opposite of what your words are saying. The same existence you are currently living is what you ‘actual’ desire because you are putting in no actions to change it.
Big difference between desire & actualizing your vision.
What do you spend your time on? What kind of information do you consume? What action do you take with what you have consumed?
The power of creation comes in birth and growth. But at times in order to create something must be destroyed to make room. In this way we create the space needed.
Looking truthfully at the life we are living we can see if it is working or not. It’s easy to be critical of others but it takes the focus off our own lives and what may not be working.
The power found in destroying comes when it’s focused on burning away what isn’t working in our own lives – habits, mindsets, lack of clarity. From this new space we have created in our minds and life we can breath new life.
The phoenix obtains new life by arising from the ashes of its former self. Life after all is about progress and we will redefine ourselves many times throughout our lives.
Boy becomes a man, a man becomes a husband, a husband becomes a father, a father becomes a grandfather. One generation gives way to the next, passing on lessons and skills – legacy.
Despite what’s happening around us as society seems to limp along, we can create our own world. The world we build can be built on the foundation of traditions, rituals, real meaningful relationships -innangraths with a focus on brotherhood and sisterhood.
Through this we find Frith – peace of mind, purpose, interdependence, shared struggle and order within our kindreds.
Everything you do you have the choice to be intentional. To choose what it takes to follow through on all of your initiatives. If you lose – this is how I will react.. If something isn’t going quite right then this is how I will handle it. We aren’t always thinking win win win, things will not always be going our way. There are things simply out of our control.
Focus on being intentional of the things you can control, which will drive progress towards what that big goal and big vision is.
You can control Passion.
You can control Effort.
You can control Attitude.
You can control Focus.
We can control whether or not we choose to connect with our why and our purpose and why we are taking action. We control what kind of information and inspiration we put into our brain. We choose what we focus on.
It’s all about being intentional.
Are we doing the things that someone who has reached our vision is doing? What does our day look like? Does our day look like an MMA Champion’s day? Does our day look like a successful business person’s day? If it doesn’t then we have a disparity that needs to be corrected.
Nothing happens without being intentional. We have to constantly up our standards. Everybody goes through the same stuff. Everybody will wake up some days and not want to train. But we wake up and tell ourselves why we are doing it. Day 1 of training is a lot different then day 100.
We’re sore, wore out, dragging a bit. Writing the reason down so we can remind ourselves why we are doing it. We take the momentum we’ve built and use it. We can be intentional on building that momentum and using it. If not then feelings will take over. But when we have a certain standard we hold ourselves to then we can overcome those feelings. WE have to choose a standard for ourselves. WE have to choose to raise our own standards.
It has to be a choice.
We don’t just wake up and do what we do. Its a result of creating habits and standards base upon the mentors, clan and the people who have been there for us in the past.
It’s a decision. Tony Robbins says success is 80% psychology and 20% mechanics – 80/20 rule. Our clan holds us to a certain standard but we still have to choose it. That choice we make is being intentional about what we do.